Happiness

There wasn't anything in particular that I wanted to talk about today. No pressing issues, nothing to rant about, at least not right now. So I guess I'll just talk about happiness. We don't realize how important it is to be happy. There were times when I would be unhappy, and I realize that it's useless. It doesn't get me anything and it's not pleasant. I think that's something everyone should do. People say that they can't just stop being unhappy, but I don't see why not. We choose what we focus on in life, and we can pick the happy things. If nothing in your life is happy, then you've got some serious upheaval to do. But I'm assuming there's at least one thing that you can focus on. Well, focus on it. Let that happiness spread into the rest of your life. Don't waste your life being unhappy. Or insecure, because those go hand in hand. Now, I'm not stupid, we're all going to be insecure or unhappy sometimes, but it's important to not dwell on it. I've gotten so good at it that I don't really know how to be really sad. Recently something happened that should have devastated me, but I can't make myself feel unhappy about it. I'm happy right now, happier than I've been in a while actually, and for no reason except that I like being happy. It's good for me, and it's good for you. So be happy. Enjoy the little things.
Today is one of my best friends birthdays. She's always so nice to other people, so I wanted to give her a good birthday. She usually doesn't get too much, it being the very beginning of school and all. I mean, everyone loves her, so of course she gets presents and stuff, but I wanted her to carry cookies and a balloon around and we're taking her to dinner tonight. And doing that for her makes me really happy, because we're doing it because we want to. And I'm not the only one. Plenty of people want to do stuff for her, and that inspires me. It's not just for her good looks, it's because she's a good person, and she makes people want to be nice. That inspires me, because she just spreads happiness.
So be like my friend, be like me. Be happy, and don't let things get you down. It's not worth being sad forever. Be sad for a bit, (mine is unusually short-less than a day), and then be happy.

I don't know, lots of quotes are about happiness. Go out and read a book, and maybe you'll find one.

Goodbyes

Saying goodbye can be one of the hardest things to do, but it can also be the best, or the easiest, or the worst. People say it all the time, but always with the intent on seeing the person later. Final goodbyes are much more substantial. They can be a final goodbye to someone you hate, in which case you'll probably celebrate. These are not as common, however, as the final goodbye of a loved one. The goodbye that you never want to have to say. Death can be a hard thing to deal with, and those final goodbyes are harder than anything else. They make me think about what I most want to say to people. If someone you loved or carted about was dying, how would you respond? What would you say to them? Say it to them now. Except for the I'll miss you and goodbye parts, of course. Those things do not need to be regretted words that you never got to say. Or imagine it the other way around. If you're about to die, what do you say, and to whom? Think about it, and it will reveal who you truly care about. It might surprise you.
That's not what I was intending to talk about, however. I was meaning to discuss final goodbyes of another matter. A broken heart is one of the most painful things in the world, and everyone has one at some point or another. Saying goodbye to the person that broke your heart, that you loved or still love, can be very difficult. You may want to scream at them or curse them, and many do, but some will not be able to. Because you love them. Just because they broke your heart doesn't mean you don't still care about them. Saying goodbye in this case is always going to be hard, but maybe it's for the best. If they thought something wasn't working out, and you loved them, then don't you trust their opinion? You may not agree, but you still respect their decision somewhat. Or not, it could have been a really bad breakup. But you also could have been the one who did the dumping. You obviously felt that it was for the best, but you still have to say goodbye. You have to let them go for the last time.
Goodbyes are hard. You'll cry, you'll be sad, but you'll move on. You'll move to the next hello and that will turn into a goodbye that will become the next hello. One chapter is finished, not the whole book. You have to trust that you'll understand someday, and that whether or not its for the best, it happened, and so now you should make the best of it. That's all there is left to do, really.

"'What should I do now?' She asked in a soft voice.
'Live. Live as fully as you can.'"-Angel's Ink by Jocelynn Drake