Goodbyes

Saying goodbye can be one of the hardest things to do, but it can also be the best, or the easiest, or the worst. People say it all the time, but always with the intent on seeing the person later. Final goodbyes are much more substantial. They can be a final goodbye to someone you hate, in which case you'll probably celebrate. These are not as common, however, as the final goodbye of a loved one. The goodbye that you never want to have to say. Death can be a hard thing to deal with, and those final goodbyes are harder than anything else. They make me think about what I most want to say to people. If someone you loved or carted about was dying, how would you respond? What would you say to them? Say it to them now. Except for the I'll miss you and goodbye parts, of course. Those things do not need to be regretted words that you never got to say. Or imagine it the other way around. If you're about to die, what do you say, and to whom? Think about it, and it will reveal who you truly care about. It might surprise you.
That's not what I was intending to talk about, however. I was meaning to discuss final goodbyes of another matter. A broken heart is one of the most painful things in the world, and everyone has one at some point or another. Saying goodbye to the person that broke your heart, that you loved or still love, can be very difficult. You may want to scream at them or curse them, and many do, but some will not be able to. Because you love them. Just because they broke your heart doesn't mean you don't still care about them. Saying goodbye in this case is always going to be hard, but maybe it's for the best. If they thought something wasn't working out, and you loved them, then don't you trust their opinion? You may not agree, but you still respect their decision somewhat. Or not, it could have been a really bad breakup. But you also could have been the one who did the dumping. You obviously felt that it was for the best, but you still have to say goodbye. You have to let them go for the last time.
Goodbyes are hard. You'll cry, you'll be sad, but you'll move on. You'll move to the next hello and that will turn into a goodbye that will become the next hello. One chapter is finished, not the whole book. You have to trust that you'll understand someday, and that whether or not its for the best, it happened, and so now you should make the best of it. That's all there is left to do, really.

"'What should I do now?' She asked in a soft voice.
'Live. Live as fully as you can.'"-Angel's Ink by Jocelynn Drake