Not Giving a F***

It's a common mentality to "not give a f***". And I put asterisks there because I don't know who's reading this, but it's always best to stay clean. Still, that's the phrase we use. People have decided that they don't care. That nothing is going to get to them and they're going to say "screw it" to the world. A lot of people I know have this mentality, and I understand where it's coming from, but I don't think they know where it's going.
People think this way a lot of the time because they've been hurt. They've been insulted or told they were bad or wrong too many times. They've been heartbroken, and that pain is worse than what they expected. This emotional pain is too much. So they decide to stop it. They don't care what people think about them, so they can't be hurt by it. They don't care what people expect of them, so they can't disappoint them. They don't care if someone doesn't like them, they don't care what happens. They give up on giving a damn. The problem with this is that no one can truly stop caring. They're always going to care, now they're just pushing it all down.
My main issue with this way of thinking is that people seem to think that it means they get to be rude. Nothing, absolutely nothing, gives someone the right to be rude. There is no purpose to being mean. If they don't care what people think, then they're going to be brutally honest. They're going to laugh things off even if it hurts inside, expecting everyone else to do the same. Not caring if everyone dislikes them.
How is that any way to live? Knowing that you're hurting others? Possibly driving them to the point where they don't want to care anymore? That's just sad.
Where it gets even worse is that these people really need love. Everyone does, but these people question why they don't have it. Everyone deserves to be happy. They've stopped caring, so why aren't they happy?
The simple truth is this: if you don't care about people's feelings, you can't expect them to have feelings for you.
If you constantly go on and on about how you don't care what other people think of you, you cannot turn around and complain that that boy or girl does not like you back. People give back what they get. If they're getting no caring from a person, they will stop caring for that person. I wish people would understand that "not giving a f***" is simply ruining their relationships with people.

I understand that their pain is real. I understand that they want to turn it all off. But I also understand that by doing that, they're shutting out the people who do care about them. The people that care. So the next time you tell someone you don't give a f***, think about them. Do you care about them? If so, you may want to think twice about telling them to their face that you don't. The more you tell people you don't care, the more they believe you. And the less they care about you.

“The closest thing to being cared for is to care for someone else.” 
― Carson McCullers, The Square Root of Wonderful

so maybe if we all cared a little bit more about other people, we'd get that happiness we all deserve.